So, mom’s friend, the same one who gave a stranger a ride home, turned down a full time job offer right after college. And, she said it was one of the best decisions she ever made in her life.
When you don’t really know what path you want to take in life, the anxiety of graduating from the education system and finding that next step is oh so real. Grad school? Med school? Do you take the GRE or the LSAT? Get a full time job? Get a job you don’t really want to pay off student loans starting six months after graduation? Move back in with your parents? Work as a server as you wait to get a “better job?” Or, do you just move to the middle of nowhere and start an alpaca farm and call it good?
Mom’s friend had written countless cover letters and adapted her resume to each job description. She was looking at jobs in Florida, Georgia, Chicago, D.C., New York, some random city out west… the list goes on. They say “the world is your oyster.” But, wow. That is so fucking overwhelming. There are so many things you can do with your life now.
For the first time, you have a chance to do something that is not societally predestined. You have control now. You go through elementary school, the horrors of Middle school, and then whatever exciting, life changing, yet confusing shitshow High school is. And then, four, five, six, eight, or how ever long it takes more years of taking classes. There are so many paths and so many options. Too many paths and too many options.
So long story short, there was a marketing sales job. Mom’s friend borrowed clothes from her mom’s friend, who she was renting a bedroom from during the summer. The pointy heels hurt her feet, she felt restricted in a button up and dress pants, and she snapchatted that she is not the person to be wearing clothes like these to work every day because that’s not who she was. She didn’t even own business clothes. The company had the interviewer take her out for coffee and she even met the head person of the office at the end of the interview.
She got the job offer the very next day. The job would start the following Monday.
When she heard the news, she wasn’t excited like she thought she’d be when offered a full time job. She said she was kind of dreading it. Hopeless that she wouldn’t get to do what she wanted to do, whether it’d be traveling or making videos. So, she told the company she would get back to them by the end of the week.
It was a young, lively office, and she tried her best to see herself working there. But, she absolutely could not. She could not imagine doing sales work from seven in the morning until six thirty at night.
So, at the end of the week, she called them back, thanked them for their time, and turned down a full-time job offer.
Did she have a plan? Kind of. Not really. She was just hopeful that whatever was going to work out, was eventually going to work out.
She was working part-time for the university she had just graduated from as a graphic and media designer. But, the contract was up at the end of August. The much anticipated summer conference was approaching, which she would be able to attend on a scholarship to learn more about Digital Storytelling and Imagination while connecting with academics from universities all over the world. She had unpaid gigs coming up. One gig was for the band she had been following since March. Another gig was for a wedding.
There were so many opportunities she was looking forward to because she hoped they would help her discover what she wanted to do with her life. She didn’t know at the time whether she wanted to be a graphic designer, wedding videographer, social media manager, event videographer, or to go to grad school so she could work in higher education.
There were many days where she would mumble to herself, Girl. You turned down a full time job. What? A full time job. All of her friends were also on the job hunt, and this baffled her even more. She had been offered a job, but had turned it down.
Six months down the road, everything was falling into place. The contract she had with the university continued to be extended every few months. She was getting paid gigs for music videos, weddings, and various company deals. There was still time to grab drinks with friends or travel to another state for college friend group reunions. Life was pretty good to her.
She got into a debate with one of her friends, Metro Boy to be exact, about money and jobs. To sum it up, he said she was comfortable and that’s why she was stuck where she was. He thought working a job for a few years and saving up would be the better option because then she would have the money to travel, to pay for all the gear… she would be financially comfortable. He asked her, do you not want bigger and better things?
Now, mom’s friend always had trouble getting her thoughts into words. When given a mic, she stuttered and got light headed. She had to restart her sentence at least three times to even start the story the way she wanted to.
This same girl responded, firmly, with proper breathing so she didn’t even get lightheaded, and with too many hand gestures for her to be driving safely at night, why fucking wait? I’m doing what I want to do right now.
You are not guaranteed 5 years.
“I’ll start on Monday” What. No! Start now! You are not guaranteed the Monday that is a few days away.
Why fucking wait to do what you love?
Yes. Money is important. It feeds you, gives you a roof over your head, pays for the car you drive, the phone you use, the equipment you need to do the work that you do. Money allows you to support others, to travel. Money is pretty fucking important.
Her plan was to work corporate for a few years, get settled, and then start her side thing. If she were to have a 5 year or 10 year plan, she just shaved a few years off that plan. If the “end goal” (there is no end goal, you’re always moving forward, doing new things, changing paths, but in this case, the end goal) was to ultimately have her own videography business, she was already fucking there. A few months out of college. And who knows, she might not have even started her own thing because the risk would’ve been greater than what it was when she was right out of college. Later on down the road, there might have been a family she had to care for and couldn’t take the risk of leaving a job to start a business. She could’ve gotten so out of tune with the love of filming and editing, it wouldn’t even be an option. There are so many factors that could have deterred her from starting her own videography and design business later in life.
Don’t wait to do what you want. Especially when it comes to something as important as a job. Don’t waste your life being unhappy where you are. Yes, mindset has something to do with it too, but you have to go after your dreams.
Our societal structure is based on moving populations through a process of school, more school, then work to fuel the economy. But, through it all, don’t put yourself on hold. Go after your dream.
Mom’s friend could not see herself working a sales job from seven in the morning to six thirty at night. But, she was more than happy to film a wedding from nine in the morning until ten thirty at night.